Pressure

Hey there, MisWired here. And today I want to talk about pressure. I know that everyone goes through some sort of pressure during their life, but there is something about the pressure that a ND person goes through. And it always seems to start initially with continuous external pressure that we eventually internalize and sub-consciously end up pressuring ourselves with.

And it's super hard to stop doing things that not only don't realize that we do, but also don't know how to do otherwise. But it is possible to stop pressurizing ourselves to live up to expectations that aren't ours. I think the biggest problem about pressure is that by the time we get to a place where we can change things, we don't know ourselves well enough to make those changes. And I think that plays a role in why we can't ask people for help in things that would help up.

And because of that hesitancy, we end up suffering in silence because we've pressured ourselves into doing everything for ourselves. And the fact that society expects us to come up with solutions for problems, well it becomes super daunting. And having to deal with our own struggles and come up with solutions for issues that put us in a disadvantageous position is exhausting for anyone. Add to that the fact that ND advocates are almost exclusively expected to come up with solutions, with many of us not being full time advocates, we get spread extremely thin extremely fast.

Overall, I think pressure, both internalized and from society has put a lot of us into a position where we feel like we can't talk about our struggles because we'll be told it's our fault. And that can break down even the toughest of people.